5 Steps For Handling Frustration – #3

#3 Be thankful-Frustrations can be blessings in disguise If you find yourself getting frustrated, it’s easy to get caught in the spiral-nothing’s going right, no one appreciates you, it’s never going to get better, etc.  What if instead of allowing yourself to continue being frustrated, you paused for a moment and counted your blessings?

Rick Warren wrote “You don’t have to be thankful for a bad situation, but you can be thankful in a bad situation”.  It’s easy to look at the glass as being half empty, when instead we should look at the glass as always being half full.  Our attitudes definitely can affect how we handle frustrating situations.

In the world of Facebook, it seems there is always someone venting their frustrations for everyone to see.  They complain about their children, their spouses, their jobs, having to come home and cook dinner, and on and on.  Sometimes I feel myself getting frustrated at their endless rants of unhappiness.  Don’t get me wrong, I know I’m not perfect!  I know I have rough days too.

But here’s another perspective on it:

Your child that you just complained about for everyone to see-you could have five friends struggling with infertility right now, who would love to have a child to get frustrated at.  You probably have a friend who recently lost a child due to a miscarriage or death.  Your negative words about your children cut through these individuals like a knife.

Your spouse that you just threw under the bus for everyone to read about-you probably have a dozen friends who are struggling to find a spouse and wonder if they are going to be alone for the rest of their lives.  You may also have friends whose spouse recently left them, either through an unwanted separation or death.

Your job that you hate-you probably have a few friends who have recently been given pink slips.  These friends are stressed and wondering how they are going to care for their families.  They would love to have a job to complain about.

Having to come home and cook dinner for your family after a long day at work-you may have friends who are wondering where their next meal is coming from.  They would love to come home to stocked fridge and pantry. 

The point is-I’m not trying to shame anyone or make you feel bad.  I just want to give you another way of looking at the frustrations in your life.  There is a saying that says “The things you take for granted, someone else is praying for”.  The next time you feel really frustrated, take a moment to count your blessings and look at what it is you are upset about.  You may soon realize that your frustrations are really blessings in disguise.

Source: Five Steps for Handling Frustration by Rick Warren, author of Purpose Driven Life

 

Written by: Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW

Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group.  Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling.  Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.

Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.