#2 Ask Yourself - What Can I Learn From It? If you find yourself in a situation that's creating frustration or irritation, it does not have to end here. There are ways to move forward and handle this frustration differently.
After you've asked yourself if there's anything you've done to help create the situation, you can now ask yourself if there's anything you can learn from the situation. The best and most positive approach is to see these situations as opportunities rather than failures. What can you do differently next time? What did you learn about yourself? What did you learn about someone else?
Again, these questions are not designed to be used for beating yourself up. These questions are designed for you to learn. To become healthier. To find freedom from old unhealthy patterns.
How can you learn from frustration or irritation? Ask yourself these questions (note these are just a few questions of many to ask):
- Do I need to START doing something differently?
- Do I need to STOP doing something?
- Do I need to apologize and ask for forgiveness?
- Do I need to share my feelings with someone who may not be fully aware of my emotions?
- Do I have a tendency to share too much?
- Is there a pattern I'm seeing in my life that needs to be addressed?
The key is taking irritation and turning it into an opportunity to learn and be a healthier person. There may be a lot of negatives happening in your life. God can take any negative that happens in our life and turn it into a positive if we let Him. Thank you for reading.
Source: Five Steps for Handling Frustration by Rick Warren, author of Purpose Driven Life
Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.