Frustration is part of life and unavoidable. Everyone has a pet peeve and something that can get under their skin. The problem is that we don't always handle it too well. Some might take it out on others. Others might build resentments. And some people will overreact to a simple thing when frustration has built up and not been resolved. Rick Warren, author of The Purpose Driven Life, wrote 5 steps for people to follow when they feel frustrated. We hope you find these simple steps easy to include in your daily life in order to decrease frustration.
Step #1 Ask Yourself Did I Cause it?
Are you your own worst enemy? Do you put yourself in frustrating situations? Do you surround yourself with people who aren't emotionally safe and who push your buttons?
When you're frustrated, it is important to examine if you had anything to do with it. If so, it is refreshing and empowering to know that you can choose differently and have some control over this frustration from happening again!
This exercise is not meant for you to beat up on yourself and wallow in your mistakes. It is intended to help you get insight into what happened and how.
I know it doesn't feel good to admit that you brought this frustration on yourself, but it does help to own your actions and make a choice to do it differently in the future.
Once you realize you might have been the cause of your frustrations, try doing the following:
- Set boundaries with others and yourself.
- Surround yourself with safe and supportive people.
- Be aware of your actions.
- Be intentional as you make choices.
- Learn from your mistakes.
Keep reading tomorrow for the next step for handling frustration! Thanks for reading!
Source: Five Steps for Handling Frustration by Rick Warren author of Purpose Driven Life
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri does virtual therapy for residents of Indiana and Florida using videoconferencing technology. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling and adolescent counseling.