7. Avoid Power Struggles Avioid power struggles with your child. Power struggles always end up in a lose-lose situation with a child. Instead of teaching how to be in a healthy relationship that focuses on compromise and finding a win-win outcome in a relationship when someone is angry or hurting, a power struggle teaches that relationships are about control. With parenting, we truly want to teach our child how to learn how to navigate adult relationships at some point in life. This means learning how to make healthy choices and to have a voice in relationships. Obviously, not all decisions can be made by a child (this would mean having too much power for a child, which isn't healthy either). Work with your child, not against them.
8. Provide a Cooling Off Period
When you see that your child is so angry they are unable to make healthy decisions or unable to effectively put words to how they feel (or what they are needing), teach them how to "cool off". This way, they are able to come back to the discussion from a better place. Read a book together or go on a walk. Then calmly discuss what happened and make a plan for next time.
Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers