See a Therapist: Sometimes people will feel embarrassed when the breakup of a relationship begins to feel as though it's overwhelming or consuming them. Remember that breakups are or can be very painful! We put a lot of investment into relationships: investments of time, hope, effort, feelings and our "self", so if they end, try not to allow yourself to feel like you aren't worthy of the relationship or person. This might involve going to see a therapist to process the feelings about the breakup and learn healthy ways to cope with the ending and moving on. If you are feeling a lot of guilt or starting to dwell in the sadness, or if you find the breakup is impacting your life in other areas, seeing a therapist can help with this. With the right tools, you can feel more "whole" and get the closure you need to move on. Breakups are rarely easy!
If your ex-partner continues to contact you, or if you feel the need to continue reaching out to them (perhaps you are hoping they will make you feel better... which rarely works), learn how to seet healthy boundaries with your ex-partner. Boundaries can help you maintain your dignity and pride, and also help to protect you from inappropriate treatment from another person.
Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.