Characteristic #4 Spending Quality Time I know earlier in the week Teri mentioned being engaged when you are with your kids and family. It is so important to be present whether we are spending time together talking, laughing and having fun, or if we are doing an activity.
A Father who spends quality time with his kids knows that the time spent needs to be something the kids enjoy doing. Sure, having them shag golf balls would be fun for Dad but they would probably enjoy him teaching them how to ride their bike or how to swim a lot more. His daughter LOVES to have him as her most frequent guest to her tea party she holds on Tuesday evenings. He knows just what they like to do and participates because he wants them to feel loved.
A healthy father actually knows his children well enough to know what they enjoy. He listens to them and studies them. What if they are interested in soccer and he doesn’t know how to play? He finds out how to play! Then he plays it with them. A healthy Father shows his love by knowing and pursuing his kids.
A healthy father does things that, yes…sometimes he doesn’t enjoy! Maybe it isn’t his cup of tea to do a tea party. But if that is what little sissy wants, he will learn to enjoy it just because it is with her. If wrestling isn’t his thing, he will muster up enough energy to at least pretend he knows how to do it! The kids don’t even notice. They are so excited that he is engaging in their lives that they roll on the floor laughing.
A healthy Father finds creative ways to spend quality time. Maybe he does need to go out and hit golf balls. It is definitely healthy for him to take care of himself and have time alone. But if he has already golfed twice this week, on Saturday Timmy would join him and ride in the cart or shag those balls. That is…. if he has made sure he had participated in some things Timmy enjoys recently, too. It’s a give and take.
Quality time with your kids can be so fun. Those of us who were blessed enough to have this characteristic in our Father understand the importance and what it does to light up your heart when quality time is given.
We want to wish all of you a Happy Father’s Day this year! God be with you as you raise your children. Thank you for reading.
Written by Natalie Chandler
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville