25. When was the last time you talked about your future together, and were you on the same page? Obviously, if you aren’t talking about the future, you have disconnected from one another. Make sure you dream together and set goals that you want to achieve. If you aren’t having conversations about the future --from finances, family, career goals, etc.- - you both will end up with very different expectations of what your future looks like. 26. Do you feel as if you can communicate without saying a word? Sometimes it’s just a glance, body language, or just knowing your partner well enough to know what they think/feel. Make sure that you are always learning about one another, no matter how long you have been together.
27. What is your happiest memory of your time together? Your worst? Are there more happy memories than unhappy ones? If you think back on your relationship, and there are more unhappy memories than happy ones, something is wrong. You and your partner need to evaluate this unhealthy routine you have fallen into, in order to prevent from repeating the same pattern in the future. You should also work on making more positive memories together in the future-plan a trip, surprise your spouse with a gift, etc.!
28. What is a relationship breaker for you, and have you overlooked one in this relationship? This can be anything from infidelity, abuse (physical, emotional, verbal), betrayal of trust, etc. Have you both had appropriate boundaries in your marriage? If something has happened, was it discussed and was there any closure?
29. How do you feel about the last, in-depth conversation you and your partner had? Communication is key in any relationship. If you aren’t talking, you become roommates instead of partners. Make sure that you are constantly learning about one another and fighting fair when there are disagreements.
30. Do you show love for each other often, and if not, why? If you stop trying, the relationship is going to fail. Make sure that you both are affectionate, considerate, and meeting one another’s emotional needs. If you aren’t sure if your spouse if feeling loved by you, check in with them frequently to see what they need from you.
Thank you for reading this week! As always, if you read our blog this week and identified some problem areas in your relationship, make sure to seek professional help before it is too late.
*Source: 30 Questions To Help If You Have Doubts About Your Relationship by Terez Williamson by tinybudda.com
Written by: Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW
Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.
Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.