#7 - When you think of your partner, do you smile? - Is your gut reaction to smile when you think of your spouse or your significant other? We hope so! If your initial reaction is to roll your eyes or take a deep breath, then why? If your reaction is to feel warmth and love then pay attention to those feelings. #8 - Do you feel threatened when others find your partner attractive, and why? - The answers to these questions are very important. They reveal where these insecurities arise from. Pay attention if your answers come from your partners actual behaviors or from within yourself and your own insecurities.
#9 - Do you believe your partner is your biggest advocate? - We all need a cheering squad from time to time to encourage us along the way. This may comprise of family, friends, and our significant other. Having your partner in your corner is extremely important - and vice versa. Have they stood up for you in the past when you've need them the most? Do you do the same for them?
#10 - How do you feel about your partner's views on finances? - Do you respect your partners spending habits and personal views on money? Do you argue about money and how it's spent? Money is one of the top reasons couples seek counseling. Get on the same page by talking to your partner about what money means to each of you (safety, freedom, control, etc...).
#11 - Do you enjoy spending time with your partner's relatives? Friends? - Is this an area of arguments? Do you love your partners family and believe their friends are extended family?
#12 - Do either of you dredge up resentments in arguments, and why have you struggled to let them go?- Are you holding onto resentments because you feel "unheard" in arguments and therefore, keep bringing up the argument? Or, are you trying to punish your partner and make them pay for something they've done but have apologized for? Maybe there's another reason?
With all of these questions we're providing you this week, the answers all lie within you. The goal is to get you thinking and reflecting - if you're questioning the relationship you're in. It's always best to take the focus off the other person and put it on yourself - since the only control we truly have is over ourselves. Thank you for reading.
*Source: 30 Questions To Help If You Have Doubts About Your Relationship by Terez Williamson by tinybudda.com
Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.