I agree with the mistakes Teri and Tammy see and would add the following as well:
1. Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a lot. One partner assumes what the other is thinking and reacts based on what they believe. This is dangerous because you are not necessarily reacting to what they are really feeling or thinking about, which will usually start a conflict or make one worse.
2. Showing love the way they receive love. For example, if a woman feels loved by receiving gifts, she may give her husband gifts to show him she loves him. If he feels loved by her showing him affection, the gift isn't going to mean that much to him. Although appreciated, it may not make him feel loved.
3. There are MANY communication errors that I see from my side of the room, however, the most common communication mistake is interrupting each other thus causing you to not really hear what your partner is saying. It is hard to listen when you are thinking about what you are going to say and then saying it!
I hope you'll join us tomorrow to hear Joleen's 3 mistakes she sees tomorrow...stay tuned.
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC LCAC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville.