- Opportunities to Build Trust
Trust is an essential ingredient in every relationship. Trust is extremely important in marriages, romantic relationships, with your children and other family members. When the person you're in a relationship with feels a lack of trust with you, they lose hope and a sense resentment starts to build.
How do you begin to build trust with this relationship? First, start by modeling it. Do you personally display trustworthy behavior between you everyone you come into contact with on a daily basis? It doesn't matter if it's your spouse or if it's a co-worker. Are you demonstrating trust in every aspect of your life? Secondly, do you follow-through on things you state you're going to take action towards? If you commit to doing x, y, and z, do you do it? When you follow through with your word it creates trust with others.
If you are able to do these things, the people in your life will respond well to you when you're trying to connect with them or hold them accountable for their behavior.
- Emotional Warm-Ups
Think of this like jumping jacks. Before you can do some heavy exercise, you have to start small and get your blood pumping. Relationships work the same way. If there's any distance or disconnect between you and another person, you must start small if you eventually want to start repairing the relationship.
What do emotional warm-ups look like? Again, think small. Leave a positive hand-written note, send a nice text, give a compliment. You get the point. From here you can start building up to a short conversation with your significant other, watching a tv show together with your teen or phone conversation with the friend you haven't spoken to in months. Eventually you may reach your desired goal.
Remember, you cannot start at your end goal. Look for smaller victories when you're trying to nurture relationships. If you start bigger, you'll probably find yourself frustrated and more apt to throw in the towel too soon.
I hope you're finding these tips helpful and useful. Please check back in tomorrow for more tips to nurture your relationships. Thank you for reading!
*Source: Parenting Your Out-of-Control Teenager by Scott Sells, Ph.D.
Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.