During this stage, we start making ourselves more vulnerable to each other than we did in the first stage (discussed yesterday). While we're not quite comfortable yet sharing our own personal opinions just yet, we're more likely to share what someone else thinks or believes to see what kind of reaction it gets from our partner. Sharing things such as "My best friend believes....." or "My favorite blogger says......" allows us to test the waters with our loved one and see how they respond, without offering our own opinions or beliefs. What this allows us to do is to avoid and sidestep any rejection our significant other might display toward that belief or thought.
This level is more intimate than the first level, but not very "deep" in the overall scope of things. A major reason why this level is still not very "deep" is because we're still not sharing our beliefs and distancing ourselves from our own opinions for fear of criticism or rejection.
However, as a relationship grows, so does that intimacy. Check back in tomorrow for another deeper level of intimacy. Thanks for reading!
*Material Adapted from: powertochange.com "The Five Levels of Intimacy" by Barbara Wilson
Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.