We all have people in our lives that we struggle with because of lying or betrayal. I'm sure you can probably think of a few right now! These individuals may lie constantly, fabricate stories, betray our trust, “backstab”, cheat, abuse, or do unethical things. This week at Imagine Hope we are talking about people who lie, betray, and the trust issues that lying can cause in any kind of relationship. Trust in any kind relationship is important -- from intimate relationships, friendships, family, co-workers, etc. If I can’t trust you, I will often wonder what malicious motives you may have for everything you say and do. I will question myself, constantly look for those red flags or “gut feelings” and probably not believe you about most things. Our relationship will possibly become very superficial because of my fear.
Betrayal by someone you care about is an extreme wound. If someone has done something and broken that trust, I will probably build walls up to protect myself. Anytime from here on out that someone else hits that “wound”, I will feel the pain severely. I may feel anxious, have trouble being vulnerable with others, and have very low expectations. I may find it very difficult to believe that people are basically good and trustworthy.
Continue to read this week as we continue to talk about lying, trust, and betrayal—and some actions steps to take for your own healing :)
Written by Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW
Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.
Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.