Traditions are so important in establishing rituals for children. Traditions are points we can count on. Rituals and activities that we make priority at particular times of year. It is actually traditions from my childhood that are still so important to me that I carry them into my current family rituals. Alexa's Family Tradition- Spending time with Grandparents
When I was 6 years old my parents divorced so I spent Christmas Eve with my father and his family and then Christmas Day with my mother and her family. For 95% the rest of my formative years were spent this way. I looked forward to both Christmas Eve and Christmas Day every year. I loved the anticipation of going to my grandparent's house and having dinner and opening gifts. We had the same thing for Christmas dinner every year. The smells were always the same, the tastes were always scrumptious and since I was the only grandchild on that side, all of my favorite foods were present. I cannot imagine my Christmas Eve without my grandparents. I loved having that time with them.
Christmas Day I spent traveling to my mother's family where I was able to spend time with aunts and uncles and cousins, but most importantly grandparents. My grandmother would have spent all day cooking for all of us, but would probably not get to eat a single bite! My grandfather would be laughing and watching the football games with my uncles and brother. I could always count on the best food and company.
Sadly, I no longer get to spend time with my grandparents. All but one have passed on. But both my husband and I make sure that our children are able to spend time with their grandparents at the holidays. I still spend Christmas Day with my mother (all day in my Christmas PJs!), and I drive my family down to Texas so we can spend time with my father over winter break. I want my children to have what was so important to me growing up.
Reflect on your childhood traditions and how you can carry them into your present. Have a very happy holiday season with your family!
Written by Alexa Griffith, LMHC, LCAC, NCC, RPT
Alexa Griffith, LMHC, LCAC, NCC, RPT is a licensed therapist and Registered Play Therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Alexa enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Alexa also does play therapy, family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield