The fight or flight instinct is a strong one that kicks in without us even thinking about it. Sometimes this instinct can play out in relationships too. We might be in situations where we desire to fight for the relationship or flight and exit. This week we are going over common exits that we see in relationships. All relationships use language to express feelings. An exit is a behavior that acts out our feelings.
We exit when we have had closeness and we fear loosing it.
Feeling close is amazing, but for some it can feel too risky. Many people (usually with abandonment issues) tend to sabotage relationships when they get too close. They get scared to loose it, so they will exit in order protect themselves from imagined pain.
We exit when we experience helplessness in connection with other people.
When you have felt helpless in your connection to others, you may not trust connection or believe that it is even possible. It is common for people to try to give it their all, but if it isn't given back, they feel helpless and possibly hopeless that connection can happen. Over time this can wear down a person's ability to connect and they might exit the relationship sooner than later.
Keep reading tomorrow for more ways people exit in relationships!
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Renewed Horizon Counseling. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.