We are asked many times a week by singles about how to find a quality mate. Everyone is looking for Mr or Mrs Right to share their lives with, but the biggest challenge is finding him or her. That's why Imagine Hope is giving all our single readers some tips to help them on their search that could lead them to finding a quality person this week.
Tip #1- Be A Healthy and Complete Person and You will Attract One
I love the kid's book by Shel Silverstein called "The Missing Piece Meets the Big O". This book clearly shows the importance of today's tip.
Take 3 Minutes to watch the animated version of it: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=afsV8UmMqVw
Being a "Big O" means that you are a whole and complete person rolling through life without the need for someone to complete you. You don't have any missing pieces for someone to fill.
Being whole and complete doesn't mean you are perfect and without flaws. It is about managing your emotional issues, living a balanced life, and not being too needy for others, because you are able to meet your own needs well.
Of course it is great to have a companion in life, that is a normal human desire. But at times people can lean too much on others to complete them that they create an unhealthy relationship where the other person feels pressure and smothered to rescue their partner. It is healthier to "want" someone rather than "need" them.
If you are on the hunt for Mr or Mrs Right, it is good to get your emotional baggage resolved in order for you to be a "big O" in the relationship. It sure is attractive to see someone with their head on straight and managing their life well physically and emotionally. The healthier you are, the more likely you will attract someone who is too!
Keep reading all week for more tips! And work hard this week to be your healthiest you as you roll through life.
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.