Everyone has good intentions to find a healthy relationship, but do they have what it takes to make it happen? Enmeshment is the initial love stuck feeling people typically experience at the beginning. This extreme is a short lived fantasy land where people tend to lose themselves. This is not a healthy relationship.
Emotional Cutoff is another extreme which is where people build emotional walls to protect themselves out of fear and hurt from their partner. People tend to become distant and have hidden and/or obvious conflict in this stage. This is also not a healthy relationship.
What people are searching for is an Interdependent Relationship. Each day this week we will give you qualities that are necessary for it to happen. These traits aren't just for healthy romantic relationships, but for all types of relationships in your life.
Ingredient #1- Consideration- Are you considerate of your partner and his or her needs or only focused on your own needs? Do you practice common courtesy? Being kind to one another is an important part of feeling loved by someone.
Ingredient #2- Compatibility- When looking at the scale of how compatible you are with someone, you must consider to what degree you like and dislike the same things. Also weighing how much it matters if you differ in certain attitude and belief systems will determine how compatible you are.
Read all week for more special ingredients to make your relationships healthy! Thanks for reading!
*Information adapted from a handout by Sierra Tuscon http://www.sierratucson.com
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.