As Teri discussed yesterday, Denial is the first stage in the grief process. What happens once denial is removed? After you realize your loved one is gone or you're really losing your job, or you don't have the marriage you once thought? Anger & Bargaining set in. Today we'll talk about Anger, tomorrow we'll address Bargaining.
Anger may sound similar to: "Why me? This isn't fair! How could this happen to me? How could you do this to me?" Once you've hit the anger stage you realize the denial is gone. You can be angry with yourself, angry with others, or even angry with God. During this stage you might be hard to console and have misplaced feelings of rage and envy.
Anyone or anything that represents what you're losing can be subject to resentment or jealousy. For example, if you're going thru the loss of a parent, you may feel jealous of friends/coworkers who still have their parents and feel angry when they talk about their parents in conversations.
If you find yourself in the Anger Stage, please find ways to get your anger out in healthy ways. This may be talking to a trusted friend, family member or therapist, working out, through art, or other non-destructive ways. But somehow, please release your anger.
Remember that going thru these stages is normal and expected. You may not stay in each stage long. Refusing to face the emotion of anger can result in feeling "stuck" or paralyzed in this stage. Keep in mind these stages are common. Please check back in throughout the week as we go through the other stages!
Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.