Healthy Sexual Intimacy after Sexual Addiction

This week, Imagine Hope is discussing sexual addiction and what healthy sexual intimacy looks like after sexual addiction has been identified in a relationship. You develop and maintain healthy boundaries with others.

Part of sexual addiction is poor boundaries with others.  Because sex addicts have difficulty with boundaries, they either don't realize how important boundaries are in keeping both people safe, so they have none, or they might develop boundaries that are too rigid. The same might apply to the co-addict.  Developing healthy boundaries allows you to be vulnerable and safe at the same time.

Sexuality is well-balanced and moderate.

While sex addicts live in extremes of sexual energy, experiencing either full-on excessive sexual tension or repressed, walled-off sexual feelings, when you develp sexual maturity, you can control an appropriate flow of sexual energy.

You are curious and caring about other people's reactions to you.

Instead of taking what people say personally, and reacting emotionally, healthy intimacy allows you to try and understand what is going on for them.

You learn to trust others.

Whether you are the addict or the partner of a sex addict, in overcoming sexual addiction, you must first focus on trusting yourself and learn to recognize your own truth.  Then you can use healthy boundaries to keep yourself safe while trusting others' truth, as you move through the stages of relationships.

Have you recognized any ways you can begin your journey of healing from sexual addiction?  What are some areas you identified?  We hope this week's blog brought you some enlightenment-- thank you for joining us!

Adapted from http://addictions.about.com/od/sexaddiction/tp/healthyintimacy.htm?p=1

 

Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling.  Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.