What Does It Mean to "Let Go"? -5

"Letting Go" is a popular topic in recovery from many things-- childhood issues, addictions, codependency, and unhealthy relationships, just to name a few.  Today we will finish with this week's blog series on what it means to "let go":

  • Sometimes we might feel as though "letting go" means that we don't care.  This couldn't be further from the truth!  Letting go means that we don't do things for someone who needs to be doing things for themselves.  To 'let go' means we don't do it for them.
  • When we "let go", we realize that we can't control other people, their choices or their behaviors.  To "let go" means that we stop trying to control others-- it doesn't mean that we have to cut off from them.
  • To "let go" means that we realize that the people around us need to learn from their mistakes and feel the natural consequences of their actions.  If we are rescuing them from the natural consequences of poor choices, then we are enabling them.

What are some areas of your life in which you might need to "let go"?  Letting go of the things we need to allows us to live fuller and richer lives, filled with more peace and joy-- with less unnecessary stress and chaos!

A great resource for further reading is the book duo "The Language of Letting Go" and "More Languages of Letting Go", by Melody Beattie.  This book is full of daily meditations that discuss various topics on "letting go".  We highly recommend it, no matter what area of life you are working on letting go!

Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling.  Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.