Tips on Helping Your Child Cope With Divorce- Control

  • Give your child some element of control.  Kids feels totally out of control of their world while going through a divorce.  Try to find ways to let them make small decisions so they don't feel completely powerless in such a vulnerable time.  For example:  What color to paint their room in the new house, what to have for dinner, what recreational activity to do, etc.
  • If you see any concerns with your child's reaction to the divorce, seek professional help.  Counseling can be one of the greatest ways to give your child an uninvolved, safe sounding board as they are dealing with the divorce.

Some of the resources we recommend for parents as they strive to do what is best for their child during a divorce are:

Helping your kids cope with divorce the Sandcastles Way by Gary Neuman  (A must for kids of all ages!)

Was it the Chocolate Pudding?:  A Story for Little Kids About Divorce by Sandra Levins and Bryan Langdo (for kids ages 2-6)

Mama and Daddy Bear's Divorce by Cornelia Maude Spelman (for kids ages 2-6)

This is Me and my Two Families: An Awareness Scrapbook/Journal for Children

Living in Stepfamilies by M.D. Evans (for kids ages 4 and up)

Ginny Morris and Mom's House, Dad's House by Mary Collins Gallagher (for kids ages 8-12)

Help! A Girl's Guide to Divorce and Stepfamilies by Nancy Holyoke (for girls ages 8 and up)

The Divorce Helpbook for Teens by Cynthia MacGregor (for teens)

Thank you for joining us this week!

Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling.  Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.