4. Give Yourself a Break- You do not expect to be at your optimal self the day after a huge physical injury do you? Do not expect to be on your best game after an emotional injury like a divorce. This will take time to heal, just like a physical injury. Give yourself permission to not be a super hero right now. You may not function at optimal capacity and that is okay. You will heal and be able to resume all your responsibilities as before, after some down time. Set realistic expectations of yourself and be kind to yourself while you heal. Just because you do not see your emotional injury, does not mean its not there. In my experience, if you do not respect the healing process, it will not respect you! 5. Eat Well- This means "no" to devouring a whole bowl of cookie dough. Many of us either over eat, chose poorly, or simply under eat when we are stressed. Stress eating exacerbates emotional distress! Bad eating habits make bad feelings even worse. Eating healthy foods make our blood sugar remain stable and help avoid highs and lows. When our blood sugar is out of whack, our emotions almost always follow suit. So many events in your life may feel out of control right now. You can make a choice to control what you eat and make it nutritious for your body and soul. You don't have to discount your comfort food entirely, but do not over do it.
6. Get outdoors- this one is my favorite to talk to clients about. There is nothing like being in the woods amongst tall trees or along a large body of water to make you feel so small. When we realize that we are pretty tiny in the whole scheme of the world, we also realize our problems are even smaller. So get outside, feel small, get some exercise while you are at it. The emotional benefits of exercise are numerous and unbeatable. Take a walk, ride a bike, go for a swim. Do what ever it takes to be active. Give yourself a gift every day of feeling healthy. When you do get outside and exercise, you eliminate one more thing that you can feel guilty about not accomplishing.
Please remember this is difficult stuff. You do not have to go through this alone. If you would like help with healing from divorce, please contact one of our therapists here at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. We are happy to help you walk this challenging path. Please check back as we continue to discuss ways to help heal through painful breakups and divorces. As always, thanks for reading.
Written by Alexa Griffith, LMHC, LCAC, NCC, RPT
Alexa Griffith, LMHC, LCAC, NCC, RPT is a licensed therapist and Registered Play Therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Alexa enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Alexa also does play therapy, family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield