Listening, Participating & Accepting Everyone likes to know the person they're speaking with has heard them, even if that person does not always agree or understand. This is true for every age group, young and old. Think back to being a teenager, or raising your teen. Ever remember saying (or hearing), "You never listen to me! You don't get it?!". Do you ever say this in your current adult relationships with people? What's amazing is that knowing others listen to us, and accept us is one of our basic human needs.
Not only knowing others listen to us, but knowing another person accepts us is a human need as well. Others can demonstrate their acceptance by respecting, validating and being tolerant of our feelings. This allows us to grow, mature and see ourselves in a positive way. If I know my friend, parent or spouse respects my feelings, then I feel validated and more likely to share with them in the future.
Acceptance from others allows us to be the real "us" and makes us feel like we belong and that we're also loved. Again, someone doesn't have to agree, but allowing another to share and then agreeing to listen can do so much good.
Maybe you're finding that some of your needs we've identified so far are not getting met. Don't worry! We still have many more needs to share with you, and you may see that those are being met by loved ones in your life. Thank you for reading.
Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.