Do You Have An "A-Frame Dependency" Relationship?

Love and relationships are a big focus this time of year as we approach Valentine's Day. In honor of the upcoming day, we will be sharing about many types of relationships we see couples in. We hope you are able to see where your current relationships are and where past relationships have gotten stuck. Learning about unhealthy relationships can help you learn what not to do and guide you into healthy relationships! The A-Frame Dependency Relationship

Imagine two people standing across from each other face-to-face with their arms out and hands touching as they lean all their weight on each other...this is a perfect picture of an A-Frame dependency relationship.

This is the dependency relationship where two people lean on each other because they have not learned to be whole individuals by themselves. Remember Jerry McGuire's famous line "You complete Me". It can sound romantic, but is unhealthy.

When you depend on and complete another person it sometimes feels good, but can be confining. When one person wants to move or change or grow, it upsets the other person, because the other person is leaning on him/her. It throws the balance of the relationship off as one person changes and grows.

Have you ever been in an A-Frame Dependency relationship? I hope you can see how easy it is to get trapped in this kind of relationship and the dangers for each person to be in one.

Keep checking in tomorrow to find out about "Smothering Relationships"! Thanks for reading!

Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC

Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.