I love the 8 questions from yesterday's blog on how to structure & set up goals. If you haven't read them yet, please do so. Let's talk about 2 more roadblocks to achieving goals: Insufficient Knowledge
Most people quit their goals because they don't have basic information they need to meet even the smallest step of the goal. Information is key in order to achieve goals. There are certain resources you can use in order to get the basic information to help meet your goals:
- Books - do some research or read on the subject you're interested in. If you want to learn photography, research lenses, light and cameras.
- Internet - join chat rooms, do online studies, webcasts, read blogs, the list is endless!
- Mentors - find someone in the area of which you're interested in setting a goal and talk to them. Interested in going back to school to be a teacher? Find someone who is a teacher and ask about the in's and out's of the job...the good and the bad. Find out about the requirements of school and what they would and wouldn't do differently.
- Training/School - take a class, attend seminars and workshops in order to get more info in the area you're interested in. If you want to start your own business, taking a "Social Media for Business" class may just help.
Poor Time Management
Often we get motivated at the beginning of the year and take on too much. You may have your goals broken down into easy steps, but finding the time to do them may be difficult. You have to figure out what you can let go, and what has to stay. McKay & Fanning have 3 Rules of Good Time Management:
- Prioritize. Write down all the roles you play in your life (mom, dad, husband, volunteer, christian, chauffeur, etc...). Rank the roles (1= most important, and so forth, for as many roles as you have). Now, cross out the roles you need to quit/do less of, in order to do the higher priority roles. Sometimes it may be lowering standards of some of the roles too & asking for help for some of the roles.
- Make To Do Lists. This is essential! These "To Do's" are prioritized as well. Things that must be done today, things that could be done today or tomorrow at the latest, & things that can be done sooner or later, and later is ok.
- Say "No". Our plans mainly get interrupted by other people's request for our help or our attention. Saying "no" at times to others would be helpful and keep you on track to meeting your own goals. If you struggle saying no, ask yourself these 3 questions: "Is this a reasonable request?" "Is this a high priority for me?", or "Can I agree to do part of the request, or help this person in less time?". Sometimes you have to say "no", and that's alright!
I hope these suggestions are helping you put your goals together in a more solid fashion. Please keep reading this week as we have 3 more blocks and helpful tips to share with you!
*Adapted from Self-Esteem by Matthew McKay & Patrick Fanning
Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.