You had good intentions didn't you? You set your resolutions and were ready to go, but something got in your way. Do you see this happening often? Remember goal setting doesn't just have to happen on January 1st. But regardless of when you set the goal, it's important that you take the steps towards it that lead to success and not towards giving up. Doing this means you need to plan for roadblocks.
Think of it this way...when you are driving somewhere, your goal is to get there. So you plan your route and go. But what happens when there is a detour? Do you just turn around and give up? NO! You find a different way to get there! This week we are helping you see the common roadblocks to goals, according to McKay and Fanning, that keep people from arriving at their destination. The more you know about the potential blocks, the more you can plan for the detours to still meet your goal!
Roadblock #1-Insufficient Planning
When you don't plan well, the chances of things falling into place by accident are slim. So it's important to break down your goal into specific steps. Make sure to not keep the goal too big, otherwise, it will get overwhelming and you are more likely to give up.
McKay and Fanning used the example of a loaf of bread. When you buy the bread, you don't think about eating the whole thing at once. You eat one slice and bite at a time. Otherwise you could choke or end up with a stomachache!
When you break down your goals, McKay and Fanning ask 8 questions to guide you:
1. What information do I need?
2. How much time do I need each day or week?
3. How much money do I need?
4. Whose help do I need?
5. What resources do I need?
6. What would the earliest sign that I was starting to accomplish my goal?
7. How would I know I was well on my way to accomplishing my goal?
8. When would I fully know I had accomplished my goal?
Each of these questions may not apply to every goal you set, but they do give you a good structure to start with. It all comes down to taking time to plan your goal. If you want it bad enough, you'll dedicate time to it. Check in tomorrow for more roadblocks!
*Adapted from Self-Esteem by Matthew McKay & Patrick Fanning
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.