It's that time of year when we start fresh and new. McKay & Fanning have come up with 4 key questions to ask when trying to set goals. When asking yourself these questions for setting goals, don't forget to apply the questions to each of the 8 categories Teri introduced yesterday: 1. Material Goals
2. Family and Friends Goals
3. Educational/ Intellectual/ Professional Goals
4. Health Goals
5. Leisure Goals
6. Spiritual Goals
7. Creative Goals
8. Emotional/ Psychological Growth
Question #1: What Hurts of Feels Bad?
As you think about the areas above, apply each of them to your life. Is there anything that doesn't feel good or that has bad or painful feelings associated with them? How about anything you would like to change? This is one of the best ways to start your goals setting. Think of everything that "feels bad" in one column. It's ok if you have several items!
The next step is to change the "feels bad" into positive goals. Think of something concrete you can do to change each item in your "feels bad" column. Make sure it's realistic & a specific action.
If you feel boredom in the evening, then you could join a book club. If you have backaches, then visiting the chiropractor monthly might be the corresponding goal. Lastly, if you feel disconnected from your spouse, you might set a goal of going on 1-2 dates per month to reconnect.
Once you figure out what hurts, you can figure out how you can set goals in these areas. Tomorrow we will introduce another question that will help you figure out other goals that you may want to set as well. Thanks for reading, good luck with your goals!
*Adapted from Self-Esteem by Matthew McKay & Patrick Fanning
Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.