What great lessons I am learning and being reminded of this week thru our Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table! We host both sides of the family at our house for Thanksgiving. So every year I have the "perfectionism" talk with myself. It was nice to be reminded by Teri's lesson as well as being able to relate to her. My lesson is not only one to teach you but to remind myself daily of its importance: Practice Patience
It's so funny the Norman Rockwell picture we all have in our minds and how we somehow believe someday that will be us! No matter how far from this unrealistic picture we are, it seems every year we strive for this. When we have expectations, we often feel let down and sometimes frustrated or angry. It's easy to loose patience with our family members. Many times they are just being...well..them! They are who they are but we somehow expect them to act differently because it's a Holiday.
It's important to remember to be patient. Take a deep breath when you feel yourself getting anxious. Ask yourself is this really worth getting upset about? Will this matter in a week? A year? Some things will matter and I understand that. But I mean the little things like someone bringing something other than what they were asked to bring. Or someone being 10 minutes late for dinner (or at our house an hour late!). Things that we can let go of.
This would be a great practice for everyday as well. Take a deep breath and relax! They are who they are and you can't change that! But you can change your response. Try patience!
Thank you for reading this week. We hope you have a blessed Thanksgiving and have much to be grateful!
Written by Natalie Chandler
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville