What does Healthy Self-Esteem Look Like? #3

Hopefully you have been able to identify some qualities of high self-esteem that you see in yourself. Today and tomorrow we will be discussing characteristics of low self-esteem. If you identify any of the characteristics, don't get down on yourself (thus, creating lower self-esteem), just know this is something about you that needs improvement. We all have areas to improve on. What is a person with low self-esteem like?

1. They lack self-confidence, have a pessimistic outlook, are shy and don't like themselves very much.

2. They are overly sensitive to criticism. When they are criticized or refused something, their feelings of worthlessness increase.

3. They depend on other people to tell them they are lovable, doing a good job, or are ok because they do not value themselves. They need others to validate them.

4. They have difficulty accepting compliments and usually make comments lie- "You can't mean that, it was nothing, or you're just saying that to make me feel good." They are cleary their own worst enemy.

5. Their approach to life is passive. They expect others to give them what hey need to make their life happy- perhaps even to make their decisions for them. Because they feel inferior to others, they may settle for crumbs or take an indirect way to get what they want such as whining, complaining, apologizing, suffering in silence, or begging for recognition.

Do you recognize any of these characteristics? Tomorrow Joleen will share more as well as offering resources for help. As always, we thank you for reading and wish you a wonderful day!

*Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville