What Does Healthy Self-Esteem Look Like? #1

Self- esteem is the way we see ourselves as good or bad when compared with others. When we compare ourselves to others, it can cause a lot of trouble with our self talk. It's ok to admire others and use their accomplishments as motivation for goals for yourself, but it can be risky that it could end with you beating up on yourself with negative self-talk. Self-esteem can be influenced by everything around us. What others say about us and to us can make a big impact on what level our self-esteem reaches. This week we will go over traits of people who have high and low self-esteem to help you see what these concepts mean and how they play out in your life.

What is a person with high self-esteem like?

1. They project poise, self-confidence and optimism which comes from feeling satisfied with themselves. They have learned the art of being their own best friend and biggest booster and do not depend on the praise and encouragement of others in order to like themselves.

2. People who have high self-esteem are doers. They are participators, activators, and facilitators.

3. They don't feel worthless if someone says no to them or if they are handed a criticism. Instead they take a constructive problem-solving approach to criticism and analyze negative feedback they have received. This may provide useful clues to them about aspects of themselves they want to try to change.

Check back with us tomorrow as Tamara covers more traits of high self-esteem. Then the rest of the week we will be looking at traits of low self-esteem. Thanks for reading!

Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW

Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.  Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.