There's no doubt that affairs cause grief, heartache, destruction and pain in relationships. One of the most important things to do when dealing with infidelity is to get information. Not only information to heal, but information that is correct. This week we're discussing myths people may have about affairs.
Myth #2: "Adultery is about character"
In the past, people who have battled with alcoholism or another addictions have been seen as week or fragile because of their problem. As a society, we looked down on people who struggled with addictions. Today, we acknowledge alcoholism and other addictions as a disease. The same can be said for depression. People who struggle with depression are seen as "weak", when we know it is a disease.
Society views adultery in the same manner. People who have affairs are seen as "bad", "horrible", or even "evil". While having an affair cannot be minimized or excused, it also cannot be labeled as bad character. Research is showing that children who grow up in households who had parents that had affairs, are likely to be affected by this behavior. How these children are affected varies from one child to another. But, this shows that it is not about character.
There are also many other factors that can create adultery in relationships. Some include but are not limited to: lack of emotional needs being met; addiction; past childhood abuse; poor communication, &/or current abuse in a relationship, just to name a few.
As you read our blog this week, please keep in mind that these are myths, not real reasons for affairs. Thank you!
Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.