Many times in our offices we encounter individuals and couples who have a deep sense of inner turmoil and feelings of dissatisfaction. Peace seems to be a concept that only certain "lucky" people acquire or maybe even a concept that isn't attainable at all.
This week we want to discuss how even in the midst of trial, grief, and crisis, peace can not only be present, but tangibly felt too. The Serenity Prayer is a simple yet powerful prayer that can lead each of us to this peaceful place. The most popular form of the Serenity Prayer is:
"God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference."
Let's breakdown the first part of this prayer to soak in what it's saying: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;"
According to Dictionary.com the word serenity means "the state or quality of being calm or tranquil." Notice that the author of this prayer first acknowledges that we need to ask God to grant us the ability to reach this state of calmness, peacefulness or serenity. Many times we go about life trying to do it all on our own. We make decisions, we plan for life and we keep moving forward. That can be exhausting! However, we need a relationship with God in order to feel peaceful and calm.
There are many things that can be hard to accept: a health diagnosis, a death, an addiction, an unexpected job loss, an affair, a divorce, and many other things. This prayer is encouraging us to acknowledge that with the peace that comes from God, we can face these extremely hard things.
Does this mean we should be happy these hard life circumstances are happening? Absolutely not. What this means is that we know we're not alone. God will never leave us and His love and peace is always with us. He'll be walking right next to us through the hard journey we're on. When we work on our relationship with God and ask for His help to accept these things, we allow Him to take the control rather than us trying to have all the control.
When we know this......truly know this...….we can have a deep inner peace that no one can take away.
Please check back on Wednesday as we will discuss courage. Thank you for reading.
Written by: Tamara McCord MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.