This week we are talking about how to find peace. It seems everyone we meet on our couch truly wants the same thing....peace. Their pursuits of how they all get it may be different, even if it's through the pursuit of happiness. But ultimately, they want peace. There is a lot of wisdom for peace in the Serenity Prayer. So we thought that would be a great place for us to start. If you haven't already read part 1 of this blog, I encourage you to do so before moving forward.
The 2nd line of the Serenity Prayer states.....
The courage to change the things that I can......
Courage: strength in the face of pain or grief
In my opinion, we are becoming so hardened to others pain and grief, yet so soft when it comes to our own pain and grief. Let me explain what I mean by that. It seems we are offered so many vices and comforts to take us out of our pain now that we as a society are struggling to cope with our pain. So we are running and hiding. Whether it be hiding in a bottle, an affair, porn, busyness or with anything that will numb us, we are finding ways to negatively cope to get ourselves out of pain.
Courage is showing strength, even when we are hurting over a painful situation or grieving some sort of loss, and handling whatever it is you are facing. When you do this, in the end you will find peace. It may not be an immediate thing but eventually you will find peace because you will have truly dealt with the pain or loss that you had. You will have honored the pain and yourself. That brings peace. When you don't honor it and find alternative ways to hide from it, it will result in more pain and loss and truly more lack of peace.
Change: to make different.
So when we define courage and change and put them together in this sentence, it's asking for the strength to face pain and grief in order to make things different. When things are chaotic and we are caught up in addictive cycles or negative behaviors, we do not have peace. However, asking God for strength to help you deal with the pain so you can have a different life will eventually give you true peace. Not easily done but simply put.
Friday Joleen will finish the blog with the last part of the Serenity Prayer. I am praying you find courage and peace today. Thank you for reading.
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC LCAC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville.