When children return back home in their 20's and 30's, this can create some uncomfortable moments for parents. Finances is one such area that can become very uncomfortable.
One reason children move back home is for their own financial reasons. Somehow they're struggling financially on their own, and they land on mom and/or dad's doorstep.
One thing to keep in mind is the financial impact it will have on you, as a parent, to bring your adult child back into your home. It will cost you money.....whether it's in utilities, toiletries, groceries, gas money, etc. It will cost you.
Have all the money in the world? Great! What will this cost your child by moving back home? Will they be able to learn financial responsibility and independence by being put back in the role of "child" when they are, in reality, an adult? Think back to the hard lessons you've learned in life: Were these lessons learned as a result of you taking someone's word for it? Or were lessons learned because you experienced something first-hand yourself, and the lesson stuck deep within?
Failure to launch children can be costly.....financially and emotionally. It can be hard to say "no" when you see them struggling, especially someone whom you love more than anything. Each situation is different. We understand that some children may need to come home if they've experienced a traumatic situation - we are not speaking to these situations.
Tomorrow, Emily will discuss the impact Failure to Launch has on marriages. Thank you for reading!
Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.