As Christy pointed out yesterday, the relationships we have with our fathers change as we grow and mature. At times, we may need to re-define our relationships to ensure they continue on a healthy path.
One way to strengthen our adult relationships with our dads is to spend quality time together.
Growing up, quality time may have looked like watching movies, playing in the backyard, board games, legos, sports or bedtime stories. Usually quality time was defined by what we wanted to do as children.
As adults, defining quality time is now dependent on both us and our father's interests. This will ensure a connected and pleasurable experience by both. Whether busy schedules or distance are a factor, spending quality time can be achieved. It may be defined by phone calls, weekly (or monthly) visits, or any common interests shared.
Quality time may also include things we don't have in common, but experiences we'd like to share with the other. Quality time also includes quality conversation together where we're able to speak without distractions - no phones, computers or television to draw our attention away. Quality conversation includes eye contact and positive non-verbals that indicate we're listening to one another (nodding of the head, facial expressions).
If you find yourself struggling in your relationship with your father, please keep reading this week as we have many other tips to help strengthen it.
Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.