Many times when we're facing a situation, crisis, fear or trauma, our natural reaction is to avoid it. Somehow we convince ourselves that by avoiding the situation, whatever it may be, it will get better. We couldn't be further from the truth.
In reality, avoiding the emotions of a situation results in more anxiety, more depression, more fear, etc. Avoidance will create the very thing we're trying to avoid. As a result, we'll find ourselves paralyzed, unable to move forward in certain areas of life. We'll be stuck in a repetitive, damaging cycle.
What is helpful for tolerating emotions is to discuss them. Embrace them. Feel them. Here's the reality about emotions and the traumas we endure in our lives: The more we talk about them - the more we share our personal stories - the more we gain control and the less the trauma has control over us.
Sharing the story of what we've been through with trusted individuals will help us heal over time. At first, it's hard getting the emotions out. Please check back in this week as we go over strategies to help with unpleasant and unwanted feelings.
Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.