I am certainly enjoying all the date night ideas this week! Aren't you all? I know sometimes the biggest hurdle to having a date is getting out the door. The babysitter gets sick, or you can't find one in the first place (or a family to co-op with). Sometimes the budget won't allow you to go out. It seems like there are multiple obstacles for many couples.
My husband and I struggled with this for years. Particularly when the kids were babies. It seemed inevitably something got in the way of date night. Then we invented the "At Home Date Night"! This is simply a night at home but it's more intentional.
First we set some ground rules:
No phones, computers, or ipads (same as if we are out on a date).
The time is intentional. No cleaning, cooking, or any of the normal things we tend to get distracted with when we are at home.
Let the kids know what you are doing so they only interrupt you if it's an "emergency". Tip: Define emergency to them! :)
Once the kids are in bed, we pick out our favorite carry out or delivery. Then we decide on a movie, a game, or just good old fashion talking like the old days! Light some candles, turn on some music and voila! Date night!
We've had some of our best nights this way. Remember, this doesn't have to be planned or to be done only when things don't work out. Schedule one on the calendar if you notice you aren't going to be able to go out on a date night for an extended period of time.
Good luck! I hope you have a blast. Tomorrow Joleen will share more ideas. Thank you for reading.
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC LCAC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. Her areas of expertise include infidelity recovery, faith-based counseling, anxiety and depression, as well as addictions counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville