In honor of Father's Day, this week Imagine Hope is talking about some characteristics of a healthy father. Do any of the characteristics from this week remind you of your Dad? A healthy father provides protection for his family.
When we think of protection, we usually think physical protection. A healthy father makes sure that his family is safe from danger.
He is physically present. He sets limits with how many things he does outside of the family and makes sure his is physically there and involved in the family.
He makes sure his family has a roof over their heads and food on the table (the best that he can, especially during difficult times). He doesn't use finances in a way that takes away from his family's physical safety and protection.
While this is one way of providing protection, there are more that are just as important.
A healthy father protects his family emotionally. He keeps his emotions in check-- and though he has a full range of feelings, he doesn't allow those feelings to take over (e.g., he isn't reactive or raging, his isn't moody and he doesn't take his feelings out on those around him).
A healthy father also nurtures the feelings, thoughts and needs of his children (and wife). He is able to respect their feelings and make sure his children and wife feel respected and heard. This makes him an emotionally safe and protective person.
A healthy father is mentally protective. He sets boundaries with things outside of the family that interfere with the family system running smoothly. He listens to what the family unit needs and makes sure that he follows through with saying no to things that interfere with this. He is a leader.
Do you recognize any of these characteristics in your own father?
I hope you are able to celebrate father's day with your Dad this year-- Father's are such an important part of the family! Happy Father's Day to all of the Dads out there!
Joleen Watson, MS, LMFT, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.