This week at Imagine Hope we are discussing defining moments in our lives. Defining moments are moments or points in time when the character of a person is revealed or identified. We hope that by sharing our defining moments this week, you will be able to reflect on your own.
Learning to be Vulnerable
I feel the need to make a confession: When I was younger, I used to keep people at an arm’s length. My friendships were very superficial, conversations with others were very surfacey, and I never shared my true feelings. I put walls up with people and only let them see the good parts of me, and not any of the ugly or not so attractive sides. After so many years of doing this, I became very lonely.
My defining moment came when a chick flick was in the movie theaters and my husband refused to go with me because, in his words “I’m not going to see a chick flick”. His next statement to me was, “Why don’t you ask a friend?” Yes, why don’t I? As I pondered that statement, I suddenly became very sad. The realization that I had no one to ask was devastating. The years of keeping people out had finally caught up with me. I decided then and there that I needed to do something different.
I reached out to friends, started engaging more, and even joined a woman’s small group. I made an effort to slowly tear my walls down and learn to trust people more. I became the type of friend I wish I had. As time has gone by, I have learned to be more vulnerable with my friends and we share each other’s burdens. I truly believe that this is what living in community is all about.
So what about you? Are there people you need to be more vulnerable with? Do you need to work on tearing down some of your walls as part of a defining moment in your life?
Check back this week as we talk about more defining moments from each of the therapists.
Written by Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW
Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.
Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.