This week we are talking about ways parents sabotage counseling. I used to work with kids and teenagers. I don't want this to sound offensive but do you know what the biggest roadblock to the kids healing usually was? The parents. Like Christy said on Monday, it's not on purpose, they don't usually realize they are doing it. But many times it becomes more about them than the kid. Today we are going to share more challenges.
When Parents Don't Make Therapy a Priority
Many times, it was difficult because the family made everything else a priority- sports, music lessons, extraciricular activities. Not that these things aren't important, but if a child is struggling emotionally, how much fun can these things be? It's like wanting to be healthy but having exercise the last thing on the list. Additionally, when kids are overloaded on other activities, they rarely could work on their therapy homework. It's hard to make it a priority if mom and dad are too busy to work on it with you as well.
Another obstacle for therapy is financial priorities. I first want to talk about the difference between a need and desire. I know some parents may truly not be able to afford therapy that is not low cost or based on their income. I completely respect that. Let me just say to those folks, don't give up due to cost. There are many places that do low cost/sliding scale therapy. I am more speaking to the parents who say they can't afford it but they are able to afford every other material thing under the sun. Many times, parents would say they needed to quit bringing the child because they couldn't afford it. Then in the next breath talk about their vacation to Tahiti, how their 5 year-old just got a new iPhone, and they were heading to the mall to go shopping. Ok, maybe a slight exaggeration, but you get the point. When therapy is a priority, parents need to make sacrifices in order for the kids to get the help they need. If they were sick and needed intensive health related treatment, the trip to Tahiti would be the first thing to go!
If your child is in therapy, or you're thinking about getting them help, please continue reading tomorrow as Joleen shares more ways parents sabotage therapy. Additionally, we have GREAT therapists at Imagine Hope that work with kids and teens. Be sure and check out our profile pages to see their areas of expertise. http://www.imaginehopecounseling.com/
Written by Natalie Chandler
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC, LCAC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville