One thing I absolutely enjoy in life is learning. I love reading and absorbing all the information I can from various authors. If you find yourself in a leadership role (if you have a job, a relationship or are a parent, then you're in a leadership role!) then I HIGHLY recommend this book.
The Power of the Other by Dr. Henry Cloud
Dr. Cloud address how much other people influence us - for the good and the bad. He discusses how we need the encouragement of other people in order to learn how to love ourselves, for success, and in order to thrive.
As humans, a lot of times we think we can do it all on our own, but we're only kidding ourselves. This false thinking will lead to isolation and disconnection, not only in the workplace, but in marriages and in parenting.
Dr. Cloud presents what the calls the "Four Places/Corners of Connection" where only one of them will allow us to thrive.
1. Disconnected/No Connection Corner. This is where we tend to live in isolation, rarely telling others what we need being vulnerable. This leads to loneliness and becoming a high-performer.
2. The Bad Connection. This is where we tend to be in relationship/connected with someone who makes us feel bad. We feel "not good enough" and become people pleasing.
3. The Pseudo-Good Connection. This is where we feel great - but it's due to a "high" of some sort. Addictive behavior that may come in the form of drugs, spending, food, porn, shopping, affairs, etc.
4. True Connection. This is where we're our real selves, we take off the mask, we're vulnerable and so are the people we're connecting to. Mutual respect, mutual emotional safety, mutual encouragement.
Clearly Dr. Cloud goes more in-depth to these Four Corners/Connections. It's an excellent read well worth your time!
Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.