Every family has bumps in the road which can create stress. But the stress can be increased significantly when the family has poor communication skills. This week Imagine Hope is giving you some Do's and Don'ts to follow to help your family's communication be successful! Don't:
- Give long lectures or sermons. Everyone will loose interest.
- Blame each other with statements like "It's you fault." Blaming only gets the other person defensive.
- Make vague statements like, "I don't like that", "Shape up", or "Knock it off." These statements are not telling the person what you specifically need from them.
- Ask negative questions like, "Why do you always do that?" and "How many times do I have to tell you?"
- Listen poorly and with offensive body language. Don't look away, cross your arms, or use the silent treatment.
- Not check to see if you really understand others. This leads to assumptions and miscommunication.
- Put others down or threaten them (i.e. You're worthless, I'm sick of you, If you keep this up-I'm out of here, etc.)
I hope you start catching yourself before falling in some of these communication traps! Keep reading tomorrow when Tamara shares more Don'ts!
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.