Teri and Tamara have done a wonderful job explaining the Serenity Prayer and Acceptance. The next step goes a little deeper into action. The COURAGE to CHANGE the things that I can
Let's go backwards and start with change. When we have a problem or an emotionally distressing situation, we look at it and ask ourselves, " I've accepted what I cannot change. Now what CAN I do to make this different?"
The Oxford Dictionary definition of change lists the following: -to make or become different -to take or use another instead of (to remove, get rid of, give up, exchange, or engage differently)
What can we do to make this situation different? Do I need to remove something in my life? Do I need to quit doing something? Do I need to give up something or someone? Could I engage differently to make the situation better? What can I do to experience more serenity? Then put an action plan into place.
Some people can identify what needs to be done. However, having the courage to do it can be quite difficult. It takes guts to make changes when it's going to ruffle feathers, leave a destructive relationship, quit an addiction, or turn your life upside down. There is fear involved and it takes bravery. However, having the courage to actually do something about the problem will create change. Hopefully, that will create more serenity.
Sometimes it can be difficult to get courage. This is where it is beneficial to have support and encouragement from others, and ultimately, a relationship with God or a Higher Power, to ask for courage from Him/Them.
Tomorrow Joleen will talk about the last part of the Serenity Prayer. May God grant you serenity this week.
*Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville.