Doing the "right" thing as a parent is always a concern when you think about how to handle things with your children. In the book "Why Is It Always About You?" by Sandy Hotchkiss, she discusses a very important topic and gives parents tips for helping your child not be so self-absorbed. It’s developmentally appropriate for a child and teen to be egocentric or “all about me”. However, there does come a point when that God-given egocentrism starts giving way to selfishness, a sense of entitlement, or being down right cocky and rude. In order to make sure this can turn around, we have to look to the environment and see if the child is getting messages in anyway saying, “It is all about you!” Take note of the 7 items we talk about this week and see if you identify with any of them or share any of the attitudinal beliefs.
- My child is special and deserves to have everything, every experience, and every advantage. This word “special” has lost its meaning over the course of time. Prior to now it meant that someone had a unique talent, unusual quality or was superior in some way. Now it is meant to be a part of someone’s self-esteem, and most people almost expect to hear it as a part of their routine. Every child is special to his or her parents, and each child deserves to be treated humanely and respectfully. However, just because the parent sees the child as special does not mean that others are obligated to see the child as special as well.
Watch your parenting styles this week to see if you fall into this trap. Keep reading this week for more tips! You will be surprised at the simple changes you can make to help your child!
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.