One of the most difficult challenges faced by a therapist is initiating lasting change in our clients. We are all creatures of habit. Some of us are uncomfortable but are comfortable being uncomfortable because it is familiar and a habit. Almost everyone I know has struggled in keeping their New Years Resolutions, myself included. We are forced to break those difficult habits to see real change in our lives. A few years ago I felt discouraged when I reviewed my resolutions and sought to find out how to make REAL change. Change that I could commit to and change that would….well, change my life. I wanted to share what I have found to be helpful.
1. Change “New Years Resolution” to “What do I want to see happen this year? “ A couple of years ago, I read something that said when making resolutions, ask yourself what you want to see happen in your life in the next year. I think the phrase “New Years Resolution” in itself is a joke to a lot of people and they associate it with something they know they probably won’t follow thru on. So that year I changed my “Resolutions” to “Things I want to see happen in 2003”. That shift in thinking really helped me not make the same promises to myself that I usually made: lose weight, go to church, and be closer to my friends and family. I started thinking about what I wanted to look and feel like, what I wanted my spiritual life to be like, and who I wanted to be closer with. That made me begin to think of how I would do that- which you will have to check in tomorrow to read more about how!
Best wishes to all of you as your cast your vision for 2011!
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.