This week Imagine Hope is talking about The Five Languages. We all have needs in relationships, and it is important to know what those needs are so you can make sure you are loving your partner the way they need to feel loved. Most of us receive love through five different love languages: Acts of service, Affirmations, Physical Touch, Quality Time, and Receiving Gifts. There is a great book that helps couples examine which love languages they speak: The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It is an amazing tool for people to discover how they give and receive love. This week pay attention to what makes you feel loved most, and what areas your partner seems to feel most loved. It is important to speak your partner's love language to them- even if it is different than your own. Love Language #1: Acts of Service
There are always chores to be done around the house. But did you ever think you might be showing love to your partner by doing them? The key is that your attitude is about doing the act of service out of love, not out of obligation. Also you may need to get clarity on which act of service means the most to your partner. If you assume doing dishes is an important act of service to your partner, but really taking out the trash means more- you will want to know this so you aren't miscommunicating your love. If this is your love language, make sure you teach your partner what this means to you and define the specifics around it.
Stay tuned for more on love languages tomorrow!
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.