Celebrating the Holidays means parties, food, fun and families. Some family members we love to see, and, well, others we don't. Maybe we see these family members a lot, or maybe they live in a different state (or even country) & this is the only time of year when you see each other. Whatever the case may be, we're not all fortunate enough to get along with our family members.
Don't use the Holidays as a time to fix family problems.
It may seem like the best time since everyone will be together to talk about the "incident" that happened last month with your mom, or a wonderful opportunity to do the intervention on your sister, but save it for a different day and time. Although it may be the only time you get face-to-face with a certain family member who has hurt you, the holidays are times set aside for togetherness and celebrating, not airing dirty laundry.
This doesn't mean you sweep the issue under the rug. It means you set it aside for the day, and choose to enjoy the significance of the holiday. When you think about it, holidays were designed as relationship builders...a time to take off work and spend it with others, creating more closer intimate relationships with those people.
If an issue is so severe that it needs to be discussed immediately, then do so before the holiday comes. If the issue can wait, then do so after the day, and plan to meet in person if possible or talk over the phone.
Keep reading throughout the week as Natalie and Joleen give more tips on how to decrease holiday stress!
Written by: Tamara Portee, MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.