We're continuing our talk today on how we receive and show love. The next two love languages are: 2. Words of Affirmations. This includes giving verbal praise, compliments, encouraging/kind words, and humble words. Some individuals thrive on verbal praise and kind words. This can include complimenting someone on their appearance, letting someone know how much you appreciate them, thanking them for things they do around the house, or ways in which they are helpful. If you love someone who's love language is Affirmations, then it's important to remind yourself to speak kindly and lovingly to them often. This is how they feel loved and appreciated. Good ideas can be to write a love letter, compliment or thank your loved one daily, compliment your loved one in front of others, etc...
3. Gift Giving. This is wanting and showing love in the form of gifts. A gift is anything given to you/given to someone else to say "I was thinking of you"....a visual symbol of love. Gifts can be purchased (small or large) or handmade. There's also giving the gift of self. This is giving the gift of your presence (physically & emotionally), or in other words, being there for your significant other when they need you. This can speak more loudly than buying the most expensive gift you can think of. As Gary Chapman points out in his book, The Five Love Languages, for some individuals gift giving has nothing to do with monetary value, and everything to do with love.
As always, make sure you have a good balance of showing your loved one how you love them in their love language, not how you would like to be shown love. Check back in the next few days as we go through the rest of the Love Languages!
Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA LMHC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.