Domestic Violence- Signs

It's October which means it's Domestic Violence month. In honor of this we thought it would be fitting to share info with you about this topic. This week you'll learn about the signs of domestic violence, the cycle of violence, how to spot it in others lives, what to do, and receive tons of resources to help! Unfortunately domestic violence is a reality in our society in adult relationships and with dating teens. The more you know the better you will be able to help yourself or someone you love. We appreciate the information we've gathered from helpguide.org and www.domesticviolence.org for today's blog.

What is domestic violence?

Domestic abuse, also known as spousal abuse, occurs when one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control the other person. Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence. Domestic violence and abuse are used for one purpose and one purpose only: to gain and maintain total control over you. It's victims can be all genders, ages, socioeconomic statuses, ethnicities, and sexual orientations. Domestic violence does not discriminate! It can include physical, verbal, emotional/psychological, and sexual abuse. Each form of abuse is just as damaging as the others. It leaves its victims in fear and feeling paralyzed to break the cycle.

Signs you are in an abusive relationship

Do you:

  • feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
  • avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
  • feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
  • believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
  • wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?
  • feel emotionally numb or helpless?

Does your partner:

  • humiliate or yell at you?
  • criticize you and put you down?
  • treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?
  • ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
  • blame you for his own abusive behavior?
  • see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?
  • have a bad and unpredictable temper?
  • hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?
  • threaten to take your children away or harm them?
  • threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
  • force you to have sex?
  • destroy your belongings?
  • act excessively jealous and possessive?
  • control where you go or what you do?
  • keep you from seeing your friends or family?
  • limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?
  • constantly check up on you?

There is so much to write about on this topic that we will only cover some highlights this week. Please reach out for more information if you or a loved one is a victim of domestic violence. Keep reading tomorrow as Tamara explains the cycle of violence!

Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW

Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding  areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.