Are You Addicted to Technology? Part 4

Are You Addicted to Technology? Part 4

Today, we will wrap up with this weeks series on technology "addiction".  Have you recognized any of the signs in you or your spouse? You lose track of time online and you (or your spouse) realize you have spent more time than intended, or that your time online has been excessive.

It's not uncommon to get easily "lost" online from time to time, but if you have noticed that you repeatedly spend a lot of time online (internet, Facebook,  Pinterest, online poker, browsing blogs, emailing, using Google, eBay, etc.), you might consider this to be a problem.

Are You Addicted to Technology? Part 3

Are You Addicted to Technology? Part 3

This week we have been identifying possible markers of a technology addiction. Have you seen yourself in any of our indicators so far? Here are some more:

You may be an addict if the first thing you do in the morning is reach for your phone. Just like Tammy mentioned yesterday, FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) can make you curious about what wonderful things you missed out on while you were sleeping. Often technology makes us TOO accessible and makes it TOO easy to catch up on everything.

Are You Addicted To Technology? Part 2

Are You Addicted To Technology? Part 2

This week we're going over ways to notice whether we can be addicted to technology or the access to it. See if you notice yourself in any of the following:

It's hard to get through a meal, movie, conversation, etc..., without checking your text messages, email or missed phone calls. Even if we've silenced our phones, we may still be constantly checking to see if we've missed something.

Characteristics of a Healthy Mother 5

Characteristics of a Healthy Mother 5

In honor of Mother's Day, Imagine Hope is blogging about several different characteristics of a healthy Mom. 

5. She is involved in her child's life-- but not too involved.

Sound confusing? I think for most moms and parents, it definitely is! After all, kids don't come with a manual!

Being involved in your child's life is so important-- attending their activities, spending quality one-on-one time, learning about what is happening in your child's life, and truly meeting your child on their level and entering their internal world through play, etc.

Characteristics of a Healthy Mother Part 4

Characteristics of a Healthy Mother Part 4

I think as a society in general, we tend to focus on what we are doing "wrong" as parents. I love what we are doing this week as we focus on what a healthy Mom looks like vs. what we are all doing wrong. Today we are going to focus on discipline. Discipline is about Teaching, not just Punishment When we think of discipline we often think of punishment. But the actual word "disciple" comes from the word "discipline" because it is about teaching.

Characteristics of a Healthy Mother Part 3

Characteristics of a Healthy Mother Part 3

This week we are examining what characteristics make a healthy mother.  Most moms want to do their best to raise happy well- adjusted children.  We are often blamed for the troubles of our children by the media, psychological theories (thanks Freud) and most of all, other mothers.  The best way to inoculate our families from the harmful effects of the universe is attunement.  No I am not talking about barber shop style acapella singing groups (thank goodness), but really connecting with, or being in tune with your child.  Attunement is being aware of, and responding to your child.  This is not an easy task.  Mothers are famous for being pulled in a myriad of different directions, so staying attuned with your child takes planning and effort. Keep your eye on the prize: Attunement

Characteristics of a Healthy Mother Part 2

Characteristics of a Healthy Mother Part 2

Characteristic #2: A Healthy Mother Doesn't Pick Favorites & Knows They Need to Love Their Children Differently

Mother's know each of their children are separate individuals, each with their own separate emotional needs, talents and abilities. While your first-born may have been a very special and unique and separate experience from your third or fourth-born, a healthy mother does not show favoritism toward any of her children.

What does Healthy Self-Esteem Look Like? #3

What does Healthy Self-Esteem Look Like? #3

Hopefully you have been able to identify some qualities of high self-esteem that you see in yourself. Today and tomorrow we will be discussing characteristics of low self-esteem. If you identify any of the characteristics, don't get down on yourself (thus, creating lower self-esteem), just know this is something about you that needs improvement. We all have areas to improve on. What is a person with low self-esteem like?

What Drives Your Life? The Need For Approval

As Rick Warren states, "One key to failure is to try to please everyone".  Sound familiar? Many of us grew up in a home where we constantly tried to get the approval from our parents or other important people in our lives, only to feel like we constantly fell short of this.  As adults, we might try to continue this cycle by trying to make everyone like us or think we are "good".

When we allow the expectations of parents, friends, teachers, peers, or other people to control our lives, we aren't fulfilling our true purpose in life.  After all, other's opinions of us don't truly make us "good", even though it's nice to think other people hold us in a favorable light.

When we allow other's opinions of us to run our life and constantly seek the approval of others, we don't follow a path in life that gives us true joy and fulfillment.  Other people may expect things from you that are not only unrealistic, but may not even be on your radar for what makes you happy.  As Rick Warren also states, "Those who follow the crowd usually get lost in it".

Does approval seeking drive your life?  If so, stop and ask yourself what YOU need from your life to feel fulfilled and to feel truly connected to your purpose.  If you are listening to the opinions of others over your own, you will miss your purpose and cause yourself unnecessary stress!

Source:  The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren

Joleen Watson, MS, LMFT, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling.  Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.

Tips for reducing stress in your life #4

Tips for reducing stress in your life #4

So, how many tips have you used this week to reduce stress in your life?  Looking for more?  Well, here they are!

  • Be optimistic
  • Visualize accomplishing your goals
  • Practice grace
  • Pray
  • Light candles