This week we are sharing our own top 3 communication mistakes we see people make that destroy their relationships. When you spend several hours a week listening to couples struggle with communication, luckily you learn a lot of what NOT to do. These are 3 that I see very routinely. The good news is, once people are able to see themselves do them, they are able to change their communication and make a lasting impact on their relationships.
We meet with many couples and see many styles of communication. Our goal is to help each couple building a stronger foundation and speak the same "language". However, couples come in with their own poor styles of communication that we try to help them stop. This week we want to highlight some communication mistakes we commonly see that destroy relationships.
This week, we are discussing the ever sought after goal of many of our clients— peace. Peace of heart, peace of mind, a peaceful home, peaceful relationships, or a peaceful work environment. The issues we see in our office that bring couples, families and individuals to therapy may vary, but underneath the presenting problem is usually the same core struggle: Whatever is going on in their life feels chaotic, unsettling, insecure, or just simply without peace.
This week we are talking about how to find peace. It seems everyone we meet on our couch truly wants the same thing....peace. Their pursuits of how they all get it may be different, even if it's through the pursuit of happiness. But ultimately, they want peace. There is a lot of wisdom for peace in the Serenity Prayer. So we thought that would be a great place for us to start. If you haven't already read part 1 of this blog, I encourage you to do so before moving forward.
Many times in our offices we encounter individuals and couples who have a deep sense of inner turmoil and feelings of dissatisfaction. Peace seems to be a concept that only certain "lucky" people acquire or maybe even a concept that isn't even attainable at all.
This week we want to discuss how even in the midst of trial, grief, and crisis, peace can not only be present, but tangibly felt too. The Serenity Prayer
Today we'll discuss three hot topics for teenagers that parents need to model in order to teach healthy relationships. These three hot topics are: mutual respect, manipulation and manners.
The first place a teenager sees relationship is at home between his/her parents or with her parent's relationships. This makes it crucial that a teen sees a mutually respectful relationship between two people. Many times, in our office, we see teens who are brought to counseling for disrespectful behaviors. One of the first things we look at is how the teen is learning those behaviors and whether or not the teen is witnessing disrespectful behaviors with their parents relationships.
Ahhh, teenagers. Gotta love 'em. They question authority, push boundaries, and are so creative in their thinking. That's why as parents, it's best to be prepared, be specific, and be clear. Yesterday Christy discussed why teens need boundaries in the first place, and why technology boundaries specifically are crucial. Today we'll tackle another important area for teens: Dating.
This week on Imagine Hope’s blog, we are tackling an important yet often controversial topic—setting boundaries with teens. Your teenager will never, ever tell you this—but they crave boundaries. Just like adults want consistency, routine, and to know what is expected of them, teens unknowingly want much of the same. Boundaries create a sense of security, comfort, and an expectation of what is/is not acceptable.
Coming from a very small, rural community and having a family with history of military service (my Dad was a Drill Instructor in the Army during the Vietnam War, and my Grandpa was in the Navy during WWII), I was taught from a fairly young age that Memorial Day was a day to honor those who died while in service to our country and allowed us the freedoms we are so blessed to have.
Memorial Day is a day of family time, cookouts, and often a day of rest from work. But Memorial Day isn’t just another day on the calendar—it’s a day of honor and remembering those who have paid the ultimate sacrifice. This week at Imagine Hope we want to honor Memorial Day and share about what it means to us individually:
I do associate family cookouts, my mom's awesome bbq ribs & the official start of summer with this holiday. However, I also associate personal freedom as well. When thinking back on the true representation of Memorial Day, it's a day set aside in remembrance of those U.S. soldiers who died while in military service, the ritual beginning after the civil war.
Memorial Day can be a great time for family and friends to get together and celebrate having a day off at the beginning of summer. But many use the day to memorialize lost loved ones, lost opportunities, and fallen soldiers. This week Imagine Hope is sharing our personal meanings behind this special day! What Memorial Day means to Teri-
When I think of Memorial Day my first thought is friends and family. This day historically is a day that I celebrate great relationships in my life. I love having a backyard BBQ and relaxing with laughs and fun conversations. It's a great time for me to catch up with those I've missed and to slow down and just "be" with them. So much of my life I am moving from one thing to the next and continually make promises that "We will get together soon- I promise." The next thing I know months have gone by and the promise has been broken. Taking a break to nurture relationships gives Memorial Day special meaning and reminds me that if I don't slow down in life and put the effort in with the ones I love, I will miss out on extremely special times.
I wish each of you a special and safe Memorial Day and hope you take advantage of the time to slow down and connect with those you love. You never know when you'll get your next opportunity! Check in tomorrow to see what Memorial Day means to Tammy!
Written by guest blogger Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Renewed Horizon Counseling. Teri does virtual therapy for residents of Indiana and Florida using videoconferencing technology. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling and adolescent counseling.
This week we have been giving tips for creating intimacy with your partner. By now maybe you can think of some things to do for your partner that will bring you closer. Here a couple more to add to the list:
6. Keep an open mind when communicating. Promise not to judge or ridicule each other for your needs. Respect each other's point of view and prepare for compromise.