We all have people in our lives that we struggle with because of lying or betrayal. I'm sure you can probably think of a few right now! These individuals may lie constantly, fabricate stories, betray our trust, “backstab”, cheat, abuse, or do unethical things.
As Teri said, conflict is unavoidable in relationships. It is always a red flag when couples tell us, "We never fight or have conflict". Yikes! That means somebody is not saying something in the relationship! People really do view conflict as negative. It doesn't have to be. Learning to do it in a healthy way can bring so much intimacy to a relationship. And that means any relationship: friendship, parent/child, co-workers.
This week as we explore conflict resolution tips, see if you can recognize strengths you already possess in this area, along with skills you need to sharpen a bit more. Here are a few more tips to make conflict more productive:
6. Eliminate cheap shots and "below the belt" comments. Conflict is to be respectful, using respectful words and phrases.
Resolving conflict is a skill that everyone needs to work on, even if you aren't in a relationship. There are several things to remember when entering into a confrontation that is important in order for it to go well. This week Imagine Hope is sharing some guidelines to keep in mind when fighting fair. Remember conflict is going to happen in any relationship. There is no need to be scared of it as long as you do it well. When you do, it can actually bring you closer!
This week, we have been discussing the subject of trauma-- Not the obvious kind of trauma that occurs due to a natural disaster or global catastrophic event, but the more subtle kinds of trauma that often go unrecognized. These subtle forms of trauma impact our lives emotionally, though we often times might not recognize that is what we are experiencing.
As Teri and Tamara have discussed so far this week, trauma is not necessarily something that happens that creates Post Traumatic Stress, but is often times things that may seem small that happen to us when we are growing up or events that occur as adults. As Teri said, a trauma reaction is when the victim transfers the abuse experience to that moment and feels like they are transported in a time machine back to the traumatizing event. Today I want to discuss with you the traumatizing affects created from an affair.
This week we're discussing how trauma can be thought of in different ways than what it is normally defined. Someone can experience a traumatic situation in a non-traditional way and not realize they are having a "trauma reaction". Yesterday Teri discussed how abuse can create trauma reactions. Today we're going to talk about Teasing.
When most people think of "trauma", they think of how it's defined in the dictionary: "as a body wound or shock produced by sudden physical injury, as from violence or accident". Many people do not think of or recognize the impact that emotional trauma has on ones life. We hear stories of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and other major traumas, but rarely do our clients recognize the significance that trauma plays in a person's day to day lives. This week Imagine Hope is helping you understand trauma from a new perspective and connecting how emotional trauma can impact your life- even in the simplest ways.
This week, we are discussing how we can help raise our children to become resilient-- also known as adaptable, confident, and able to adjust well to life's ups and downs. We have learned what resilience is, how to teach and mold a child to be resilient, as well as how emotional resiliency is learned through the naming and expression of feelings.
This week we are talking about the importance of creating resiliency in our children. One of the most important ways we can do this is by teaching out children about boundaries. Children need structure and routine. These provide kids with a sense of safety, security, and stability. Providing your children with a supportive, nurturing and safe environment helps them thrive, but it also provides them with a solid foundation that can be drawn upon when dealing with life stressors.
Yesterday we went over the characteristics of resilient children. Two of these characteristics are that a resilient child has learned how to problem solve and has been allowed to experience failure.
The Power of Failure
Failure can help a child (and an adult) develop an identity. Oftentimes we desire for children to have high self-esteem and see themselves in a good light. While this sentiment is well-intentioned, it can be misguided. Let me explain.