This week we are talking about tangible ways to keep a relationship connection. Notice we didn't say "easy". Unfortunately with the busyness of life, it's not easy to to make our relationships a priority. It can be difficult to find the time to do things to keep them maintained. Relationships are like plants. If you neglect them, they will slowly wither up and die. It's important to have good maintenance.
People love love. Romance can be like a drug to many. But the danger of this is that people don't truly understand what love is. They bring misconceptions about love into their relationship and end up with hurt feelings, confusion, and sometimes the ending of the relationship. Because society has such an impact on how we view love (and we know how twisted our society's lens of the world can be!), we want to help our readers understand the myths about love that could be doing damage in their relationships.
Many people believe loving yourself sounds so selfish. Yet we have found in the work we do, the less someone loves themselves, the harder it is to love others. As mentioned previously, it's not a narcissistic love. It's just the same care, nurturing, and kindness that we want others to give us. We give that to ourselves when we have self love.
As Teri shared yesterday, an inability to love ourselves extends to being unable to accept love from others. But where do we start? It's easier said than done, but there are manageable starting points for each of us. This week we're going to discuss ways that we can love ourselves. Some ways will apply and some will not.
Seasonal Affective Disorder is a common thing we see in our offices starting this time of year. Keep reading this week to see if you are a sufferer or know someone who is. We found this information so important to our readers that we are re-posting this blog series from last year. Information will help you and give you hope!
4. Give Yourself a Break- It’s ok to not be ok. Give yourself permission to grieve, feel your feelings, and breathe. You’re probably not going to be 100% for a while, and that’s ok! Be kind to yourself and set realistic goals and expectations. It’s going to take time to heal and grieve this loss. Do things that make you feel good and take care of yourself.
Regardless of the reason for the split or who initiated the divorce, both partners need to take care of themselves through the process- especially if there are kids involved. The better you handle your stress through a divorce and stay relatively balanced will more likely help your child as their world changes.
We never like to see anyone going through a divorce but if it happens, we are so glad parents seek guidance on how to have the LEAST impact on kids. Inevitably, they will have challenges and struggles. But parents can lower the impact for kids if they know what they need to do and follow through. If you missed the beginning of the week, it will be worth your time to go back and catch up.